WHERE DOES REAL COURAGE COME FROM?
Often courage is thought of as someone automatically strong. Then when we are not feeling our best, we can get down on ourselves and feel weak. I think what we forget is that true courage, true soul, and true strength, is not something we are born with or given, or from luck, or genetics. True courage comes from traversing and navigating the difficult times and coming out the other side!
It is about stepping up when you feel like a total failure, feel no sense of self, or strength, and lack motivation. It is when your creative self has gone flat, when you’re charismatic presence is in hiding, when your best self is completely deflated. It is these times that are the true test of character. It is the process of becoming strong in contrast to feeling absolutely spent! It is how you come through after making mistakes. It is being messy and imperfect, being shoved aside and unrecognized, and pulling through all of this, and then possibly going backwards again before reaching out for help, that you are finally able to find your strength and courage.
It is after no one listens to you, they ignore your beauty, ignore what you have to offer that is of tremendous value, and it is valuing yourself anyway. Then are you can really experience what being a courageous human means. It is embracing that part of you, the true shadow, that wants to be lazy, give up, doesn’t trust, is fearful, but that gives us our depth and character and growth. This completes who we truly are.
It is giving someone all you have, being completely devoted and loyal. It is when you’ve stood up for them and poured all your love, inspiration and support their way, and this is left unappreciated or even betrayed. And you find the courage anyway to love again, to give again, to trust again without denying yourself your feelings. This takes courage!
True beauty is not in the smoothness of your skin or the shape of your body, it is what is behind your eyes. And true connection with one’s soul, does not have to do with given talent, status, or the things that are dished out to you in life. It has to do with nurturing yourself during your most vulnerable times, when you have no answers. It is about creating and giving birth to whatever is necessary to carry yourself through the world, despite the disappointments and harshness. It is the lily pad sprouting from the muck.
So when you notice yourself judging yourself as weak or incapable or worthless, remember to acknowledge yourself for the courage that endures in the process of living a deep and passionate life!