UNequality is Luscious
To be equal, does not mean you’re not different from each other. To have equal rights, does not mean losing your uniqueness. It does not mean the filing down of qualities that are your edge, whether feminine, masculine, or something else!
You know how couples sometimes end up looking more and more like each other the longer they’re together? Their energy kind of morphs together over time, mysteriously affecting their physical resemblance.
What we must be careful of is losing our individuality in this beautiful union. You are uniquely who you are at your core. Your soul has a purpose that brought you to your birth. And your soul also seeks unity with others. A unity that represents Unity with the Divine, expressed through companionship and all forms of love, familial, platonic, erotic…
To interact with both our individual and our relational self is a dance!
What attracts men and women? Polarization. The power of two polar forces coming together is like two puzzle pieces finding each other to become a unique whole that is beyond the two individual wholes.
And this polarization is Energetic. It does not have to necessarily be a male and a female body coming together. But if each person is different and unique unto themselves, and drawn together, then it is like two souls magnetized together for purpose beyond the conscious mind of each. The synergy and the love that can be accessed and expressed is our divinely gifted Right.
Have you ever been drawn to someone so intensely and deeply that no matter who they were or whether they were right for you or not, there was a pull, something you could not explain that kept drawing you closer and closer? We call it chemistry. You may have thought you wanted one thing, to find that chemistry was somewhere delightfully unexpected.
No matter how badly we want to be individuals, complete unto ourselves, at the same time we cannot deny that we are also called to our opposite. We are called to something we think we are not, something we seem to be missing… for the greater symbolic purpose of Unity. There is nothing wrong with this. Completion can happen simultaneously in both your inner and outer life.
Sometimes there’s a lesson, as relationships are such great teachers. And the contrast is often a catalyst to become enflamed! It is like two pieces of wood striking together. They must be different, but at the same time willing to come together intensely for a common purpose… Fire!
Love is this way. Two beautiful unequal forces like Yin and Yang lusciously coming together in synergy and union, which beckons a greater love.
If the two individuals were too much alike, they may not have room to grow, or much to add to each others’ experience.
So don’t think that you have to be so alike or compete with another to be drawn together. If you’re a female, don’t think you have to run male energy to match up… In fact that can detract and cause competition. If you’re male, don’t feel you have to give up your masculine edge. Or you may also lose that polarization. As long as you have integrity and respect, maleness is attractive to his opposite. If you are energetically in between, embrace that! Just breathe into who you are.
What people sense is that you are bringing forth your true self. Your differences are like colors on a fall tree, creating beauty and brightness and liveliness.
So embrace Unequally to capture Your luscious and dynamic union with another. Your unknown neighbor-self. Your mirror of moving colors. Your reflection of unrequited self-love experienced through another. And enjoy its beauty!
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